The Honor of Being Mother of the Bride

I’m certain that the holidays resulted in many newly engaged couples and wedding plans are gearing up. While there are many resources out there for the bride-to-be, I think that we overlook one very important person in the Big Day…..Mom. Yes, the Mother of the Bride, or affectionately known as the MOB.

One of my most precious honors to date was serving as my daughter’s MOB. What a blast. Lots of emotions, fun and memories all rolled into one. While serving as the MOB, which for me was a year long position, I learned many things. One of the most important was my “day of preparedness plan”.   I’m not talking the big details that you always think of:  is reception hall set up correct, flowers where they need to be, photographer capturing the perfect moments, bride’s dress and veil ready to go – I’m talking the little details that are easily overlooked.

One of the most important “tools” I had with me that day was my MOB I’ve Got It Bag. This bag not only included things I needed to survive the day, but also anything the bridal party may need. I would highly recommend this to any Mother of the Bride. The following is a place to start; of course you may customize your bag to fit your specific needs.

One large tote bag – mine was a decorative print canvas bag that I’m still using today.
Fill it with:

  • Tape – of all kinds
  • Scissors
  • Safety pins
  • Flip Flops (for you to wear during reception)
  • Kleenex – lots
  • Spray deodorant
  • Hair brush, comb, hairspray
  • Bottled water
  • Aspirin, Band-Aids
  • Bobbie pins
  • Instant stain remover stick
  • Clear lip gloss – for those bridesmaids who
    forget their own
  • Mints, gum
  • Hand Lotion
  • Nail clippers, file
  • Dental floss, waterless toothbrush
  • Camera
  • Journal – my daughter actually gave a blank
    journal to me about 12 months prior to the wedding. I wrote in it periodically
    during our wedding prep, recording to do lists, activities completed and my
    feelings. My last entry was after the wedding and all my thoughts and emotions
    at that time. I plan to give it to my daughter someday – maybe when she’s the
    MOB!

Remember, being prepared will  make the day run as smoothly as possible, help you relax, and most importantly enable you to enjoy this very special day.

 

Make Your Holiday Celebrations Simple and Sensational

It’s easy to get caught up in all of the holiday preparations this time of year. The most important tip I can give is “make it as simple as possible”. If you get too stressed out over the planning, you miss out on the enjoyment! Here are a few thoughts on holiday event survival…..

Hosting several holiday parties? Decorate early so you don’t have to rush around at the last minute. Do a deep house cleaning at the beginning of the season and then just touch up quickly prior to each event. Face it; your guests are going to be having too much fun to notice a little dust. So don’t sweat it! However, if you are still stressed, lower the lights and use candles for illumination!

Make your decorations cheery and easy. Use extra ornaments scattered about your serving and dining tables; utilize the greenery of the season (add evergreen sprigs or holly leaves w/ berries to centerpieces & table settings); red cranberries and other fruits look wonderful floating in a glass cylinder filled with water; holiday ribbon can be spread along your table and intertwined among your serving dishes; holiday colored candies in glass dishes can double as treats & decorations; sprinkle red, green, gold or silver crinkled paper on the table; and don’t forget the pinecones – these can be used in their natural form or sprayed with faux snow. Remember to use items that will not wither & will last so you can decorate once and forget it!

Serving bottled water or soda? Tie a ribbon around the neck of each bottle. Also decorate around the punch bowl. It’s those little touches that add so much. Search through your boxes of decorations. Anything you have on hand can be turned into a wonderful creation!

Make a menu for each event you have planned. Create a shopping list that’s all inclusive. Purchase all non-perishables at once and have on hand. Then pick up last minute items a few days prior to your party. This eliminates the hassle and hair-raising experience of numerous shopping excursions.

You don’t have to fuss with a turkey or ham. Make it easy. Deli trays, cheese/crackers, a big pot of chili or soup and pasta salads simplify everything, yet present a nice buffet.

Make your cookie dough ahead of time and freeze. When ready, pop a few of each type in the oven and you will always have fresh baked cookies for each gathering without the fuss.  Present your holiday treats in a unique way. Purchase a divided box (in holiday colors or cover it with wrapping paper), tie a festive bow around it, and place your treats in each divided section. This can be used year after year.

Paper, paper, paper. You don’t have to pull out the good china to make a table presentable. Use paper products wherever and whenever you can. Then, just throw them away (or add to your recycle bin). Mini ornaments hanging from ribbon can be tied around red plastic cups to make instant decorative flatware & napkin holders. Cover your serving table with white paper tablecloths and add a runner down the middle made of a strip of wrapping paper. When done, no need to wash & iron, just bundle it all up and throw away.

Spending the holidays as someone’s house guest? Don’t forget the hostess gift. Consider “gift mixes”. There are a number of options available from soups to sweets. Layer the ingredients in a jar, spruce up with festive ribbons and include the recipe directions on a cute card tied to the neck of the jar. You can make several jars ahead of time and have handy to grab and go. Here are a few resources. www.recipelink.com/holiday; www.cooksrecipes.com/holiday-recipes/holiday-food-gift-mix-recipes; www.allfreecrafts.com/giftinajar.

Remember, the best part of the holidays is just being together with family and friends. Don’t let stress get in the way of what’s really important. Wishing you many happy memories of this Holiday Season.

Thanksgiving Made Simple

Here are some tips to help take the stress out of your Day of Thanksgiving.

  1. Make lists: Make lots of to do lists. Make a grocery list, make an errand list, make a list of things that need to be done around the house. Remember…..delegate some tasks to others in the family. Make sure kids have something to keep them busy. They will love feeling a part of the big day.
  2. Make Thanksgiving a pitch in: You don’t have to do all the cooking. Give specific assignments to your guests (be sure and ask them what their specialty is!) This relieves the stress, gives everyone an opportunity to contribute, and makes it a real family affair.
  3. Check on your supplies: Do an inventory of your kitchen. Make sure you have all the cookware you need, necessary serving dishes, and your festive table linens (making sure all is in order and clean can be done days in advance.)
  4. Decorate early: To avoid last minute rush on the big day, set your table, including centerpiece the day before. Once again, let the kids help!
  5. Appetizers:  We all know how difficult it is to bring the entire meal together at the same time. While guests are waiting for the chef to put on the finishing touches, serve a few appetizers. Make sure these are just little nibbles…..you don’t want everyone filling up before the big meal!
  6. Carving the bird: This all important task is often thought of at the last minute. Appoint your official “bird carver” ahead of time. Make sure they have the necessary tools to do the job justice.
  7. Drinks:  An important detail that is often overlooked is the beverages to be served. Give these some thought, prepare ahead if possible, remember to stock up on ice and have appropriate beverage glasses available.
  8. Keeping everything warm: In order to serve a warm delicious meal, use warm plates. This can be done in a clean dishwasher set on the dry cycle or run the plates under very hot water. Dry them thoroughly and wrap in heavy towel     until ready to use.

Adapted from The Thanksgiving Table by Diane Morgan. Copyright 2001.

An Apple a Day

Looking for a new twist on your Fall Family Fun? Check out your local Apple Orchard. Orchards often have areas you can reserve or rent which makes a perfect setting for a fall get-together & offer many activities for your party.  Be sure and allow enough time to enjoy apple picking, pumpkin patch, corn maze, hayride, petting farm & pony rides.

Decorations could center on an apple theme and can include arrangements consisting of fall foliage & flowers accented with apples! Yep. Simply insert a very small dowel or some other sturdy stick in the bottom of shiny apples of various sizes and insert down into floral foam to keep them in place. You can even use apples as weights to hold down the tablecloth and napkins!

Of course, food should definitely include all your fall favorites: chili; apple cider; caramel corn;  and last but not least, apple dishes in any and all variations. Also add party favors just for fun.  Consider homemade mini apple bread loaves (recipe follows), wrapped in decorative cellophane & tied with a ribbon. This is the perfect take-away for your guests to remember the festive day.

Hoping your Fall is full of fun!

FRESH APPLE BREAD

Makes: about 8 mini loaves

Ingredients:

4 cups apples, peeled and diced
1 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon baking powder
1 1/2 cup chopped walnuts
2 cups sugar
2 cups flour
2 eggs
3/4 cup vegetable oil
1 teaspoon salt
2 teaspoons vanilla
1 teaspoon ground nutmeg

Directions:
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Grease and flour mini-sized loaf pans. Whisk together sugar, oil, eggs, spices, salt, baking powder and baking soda in a large mixing bowl. Stir in flour just until it is evenly mixed. Add apples and walnuts. Stir together until well blended.  Pour into prepared loaf pans and bake for 20 to 25 minutes, until center is set.

NOTE: Rome, Gala and McIntosh are excellent apple varieties to use in this bread.
This recipe is adapted from CDKitchen. www.cdkitchen.com

NOTE: Mini loaf pans can be
found at www.cooking.com; www.kitchenkrafts.com; or www.target.com

Tailgating Tips

Fall is here! One of my favorite aspects of fall is the onset of football season and tailgating!!! What a great American tradition. Despite the “fun” of tailgating, it does require some planning. Have you ever forgotten to pack plates, didn’t have a spatula to flip the burgers, no opener for the Corona? My answer: The Terrific Tailgating Tote. Buy a good size plastic storage tub with a locking lid. Fill it with. “staples” that you may need at any point in time. Keep the TTT always packed and ready to go. This will eliminate forgetting an important item and avoid the “morning-of-game-day-rush.” Of course, there may be a special item you need to add to the tote depending on what you are serving that day, but for the most part, stocking your TTT with the following will prepare you for most tailgating trips.

Paper plates, napkins, cups, forks, spoons, knives

Foam cups for coffee/hot chocolate

Spatula (metal to avoid melting on a hot grill)

Propane lighter/matches

Salt & pepper

Koozies for cold cans

Cheese spreader

Granny fork

Stir sticks (for mixed drinks, cream in your coffee)

Roll of paper towels

Sharp knife in a protective case

Tongs

Serving spoons

Plastic zip top bag (to hold dirty utensils for the ride home)

Trash bags (be eco-friendly)

Can opener

Toothpicks (to serve the cheese cubes!)

Scissors (to open those impossible shrink wrapped packages)

Chip clips (to secure opened bags for the ride home)

Sunscreen

Bug spray

Hand sanitizer

Moist wipes

 If you need an event……you need a plan…..let’s chat

Backyard BBQ Bash

It is summer and time for grillin’ out. Why not make it a party? Here are a few easy and fun ideas to make your event the one everybody will be talking about.

 FOOD

 Make it simple: burgers, dogs and chicken

  • Feature a “fixins bar” with something for everyone
    • Ketchup, mustard, relish
    • Pickles
    • BBQ sauce
    • Bacon strips
    • Several types of cheese (sliced)
    • Crumbled bleu cheese
    • Sliced tomatoes
    • Chopped onions
    • Chili sauce
      • Place each item in bowls or small flower pots (new) to add to the backyard ambience. Label each using a tongue depressor and Sharpie. Stick in each container (like you would see plants labeled at your local nursery)
  • Add a “make your own” potato bar for a little something extra
    • Prepare baked potatoes on grill, microwave, or conventional oven
    • Prepare bar with several kinds of cheese; green onions; bacon bits; butter; sour cream; and whatever else you can think of
      • Place each item in bowls or small flower pots (new) to add to the backyard ambience. Label each using a tongue depressor and Sharpie. Stick in each container (like you would see plants labeled at your local nursery)

 DRINKS

 Set up a drink station away from food stations

  • Use two large coolers – one for alcoholic beverages and one for non-alcoholic beverages
  • Small table nearby
  • Mixed drink ingredients if you are offering this
  • Ice bucket and scoop
  • Cups
  • Bottle opener
  • Sharpie to mark names on cups to avoid mix-ups
  • Sweetener for tea
  • Stirrers
  • Small flower pot on table for small trash items

 DECORATIONS

  • Centerpieces can be made using empty mayonnaise or pickle jars
    • Tie ribbons around the neck of jar
    • Fill with fresh flowers – from your garden!!
  • Tablecloths and paper products should match an accent color in your garden. Don’t forget to tie down the table clothes!

 GENERAL

  • Use decorative citronella candles to ward off bugs
  • Provide recycle containers
  • Use several  large ceramic flower pots for un-recycled trash

 ENTERTAINMENT

Complete the day with a variety of entertainment options for your guests

  • Cornhole
  • Yard darts
  • Volleyball
  • Bocce Ball

 These ideas can get you started. Use your imagination. Introducing items into your party that carry out the outdoor theme/feel will tie everything together and make your guests say “wow, great party!”

 If you need an event…..you need a plan!!  Let’s chat….

Wedding Plans?

Is a wedding in your near future? Thinking about all the “to dos” to get ready for the “I dos” can be overwhelming. The key to simplifying this huge task is to get organized right from the start, and stay organized! Here is something that I have found very helpful.  Build a Wedding Chronicle with these simple steps. 

  1. Buy a 2-3” 3-ring notebook with pockets
  2. Buy a set of divider tabs – helpful if these have pockets as well to keep lose papers
  3. Mark tabs with the following (use as a guide, your needs may vary)
    1. Guest list
    2. Reception hall
    3. Finances
    4. To do
    5. Day of
    6. Hotel (when reserving guest rooms & different location than reception hall)
    7. Miscellaneous 

As soon as you have a date, begin keeping all important documents and to do lists (with assignments) in the appropriate section of the notebook. 

Some suggestions for information you will want to keep in each section: 

a)     Guest List

  • Guest list kept on an excel spreadsheet (or whatever method you are using to address invitations and keep track of RSVPs; special seating; special meal requests and additional guests of your invited guests)
  • Any notes regarding changes; head tables guests; etc
  • A list of all guests at special seating tables for reception 

b)     Reception Hall

  • Name & contact info for your point person at the reception hall
  • Menu
  • Event contract & due dates for deposit, final payment, etc
  • Banquet Event Orders (with time  schedule for the event)
  • Floor plan for seating arrangements
  • Copies of checks/receipts paid to the hall
  • Any correspondence from/to your point person

 c)      Finances

  • Detailed budget sheet including projected vs. actual (this document should be updated regularly as expenses are incurred to insure you stay on budget)
  • Miscellaneous contracts (photography, DJ, floral, etc)
  • Receipts for all expenses

d)     To Do

  • Just what is says: detailed to do lists with assignments of individuals who are responsible for each item 

e)     Day Of

  • Any instructions you have received from the church regarding what happens when
  • Copies of any maps you are providing your guests
  • List of items in guests’  hotel room welcome bags
  • Phone #s for anyone you may need to reach that day
  • Menu and contact information from restaurant providing bridal party snack before ceremony
  • Checks/gift cards/etc. you need to hand deliver to the various individuals (clergy, vocalists, organist, etc.)
  • Photography schedule
  • Any correspondence regarding the day’s activities from/to wedding coordinator
  • Contract with the church hosting the ceremony

 f)        Hotel

  • Contract with hotel for guest rooms
  • Contact information for point person at the hotel
  • Date block of rooms will be released
  • Arrangements for payment of guest rooms
  • Rooming list/confirmation provided by the hotel
  • Any directives regarding when/how guest room welcome bags are handled 

g)     Miscellaneous

  • Anything else you want to keep track of

 Keeping all important information/documentation in one place and organized by the various sections will help:

  • keep you on track
  • make things easy to find when you need them for reference
  • assure no detail is missed and MOST IMPORTANTLY
  • make an ominous task very doable and relieve some of the stress that comes with planning your big day 

End result: A flawless (as possible) day the Bride and Groom can enjoy and one that will be memorable for all who attend! As an added bonus….this Wedding Chronicle may come in handy some day when planning your daughter’s wedding!

If you’re getting married…..you need a plan!!  Let’s chat….

Bring on Spring!

I think Spring may be on its way. But why not bring spring a bit early? Throw a Garden Party!!! That’s right….bring spring right into your home.

Invite your guests for a Garden Party. Invitations should portray a sunny, spring type look. It could be sailboats, a beach scene, flowers, sunshine, etc.

First, make everything bright and cheerful. Decorate with daisies….everywhere. Nothing says spring like a fresh bouquet of daisies. Also use bright colors, like yellow, green, or pink for your paper plates, napkins, cups, etc. If you really want to create a “think spring” atmosphere, go through your travel magazines, etc. and tear out pictures of beaches, cruise ships, hiking trails, south sea islands, etc. Trim and frame with bright construction paper and hang around the room.

Second, the refreshments should also help your guests think of warm weather. Consider a late morning brunch complete with breakfast quiche, casserole & burritos, fruit, assorted pastries, potato bake, etc. Or you can do an early afternoon tea with a soufflé, flan, crepes, ambrosia, thumb print cookies, petit fours, scones, cucumber sandwiches, pastries and of course, an assortment of wonderful teas!

Don’t forget the beverages: include ice tea, lemonade, fruit smoothies, sparkling juices and mimosas (see special recipe that follows).

Entertainment: Of course have fun background music – Beach Boys would be a must. You could also include door prizes such as gift cards to a tanning salon or for a mani/pedi. If you want to add games, consider limbo stick, charades, karaoke or a hoola hoop contest!

Remember; just make it fun, festive and bright. Your guests will walk away with a “spring” in their step and ready for the wonderful months ahead. 

Pomegranate Mimosas

In a large pitcher, mix 3 cups pomegranate or cranberry juice with a bottle of sparkling wine or sparkling white grape juice. Add a few lime slices to the pitcher or each glass just before serving. ~~ recipe from Better Homes & Gardens January 2011.